Alone Time with Stoicism: Reading, Reflection, and Resilience

I was recently asked what is my favourite way to spend time alone. The question prompted an interesting conversation and inspire me to write this post.

In our fast-paced, hyperconnected world, finding time for oneself can seem like a rare luxury. Yet, for those who value the wisdom of the Stoics, solitude is not just a reprieve from the noise, but a necessary practice for self-improvement and inner peace. My favourite way to spend time alone is through reflective solitude, a period of introspection and mindful engagement with my thoughts, inspired by the ancient Stoic philosophy.

The Art of Reflective Solitude

Reflective solitude is more than just being alone; it’s an active, intentional practice. It involves sitting quietly, away from distractions, and allowing oneself to think deeply about life, decisions, and personal growth. This practice is rooted in the Stoic belief that self-reflection is crucial for a virtuous life. Seneca, one of the great Stoic philosophers, beautifully encapsulates this idea when he says, "We suffer more often in imagination than in reality."

By taking time to reflect, I confront my fears and anxieties, often realising that many of them are products of my own mind rather than actual threats. This process not only calms my mind but also strengthens my resilience to face real challenges with greater composure.

The Stoic Practice of Journaling

One of the practical applications of Stoic philosophy during my alone time is journaling. Marcus Aurelius, another Stoic giant, famously used his journal to explore his thoughts and cultivate wisdom. In his work "Meditations," he reflects, “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.”

Following his example, I write down my thoughts, experiences, and reflections each day (or most days, I don’t always get the chance to do this). This practice helps me to clarify my thoughts, understand my emotions, and keep track of my progress in personal development. It also serves as a valuable tool to detach from immediate reactions and view situations more objectively.

The Power of Reading

Reading, particularly philosophy and literature, is another way I spend my alone time that aligns with Stoic principles. Immersing myself in the works of Seneca, Epictetus, and modern thinkers allows me to gain new perspectives and insights. It’s a form of dialogue with great minds, helping me to refine my beliefs and values. As Seneca advises, "Associate with people who are likely to improve you."

Reading not only enriches my mind but also provides a sense of companionship with the authors and characters. This intellectual engagement stimulates my brain and often sparks new ideas and reflections, making my alone time both productive and enjoyable.

Practicing Mindfulness

Lastly, practicing mindfulness through meditation or simply being present in the moment is a key aspect of my solitary routine. The Stoics emphasised the importance of being present and accepting life as it comes. By focusing on my breath or the simple beauty around me, I cultivate a sense of inner peace and gratitude. This practice aligns with Epictetus’s teaching: "Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants."

In conclusion, my favourite way to spend time alone involves a combination of reflective solitude, journaling, reading, and mindfulness. These practices, deeply rooted in Stoic philosophy, help me to cultivate a calm mind, a resilient spirit, and a clearer sense of purpose. By embracing solitude, I not only recharge my emotional and mental energy but also embark on a continuous journey of self-discovery and growth, guided by the timeless wisdom of the Stoics.

Thanks for reading!